The bitter consequences of unforgiveness


Sometimes forgiving is hard, especially when you have deep wounds and scars and those who have never had to forgive “hard things” may be continually telling you to forgive.

Unforgiveness leads to bitterness and in turn hatred, leading to constant conflict and ultimately sin.

Acts 8:23 NIV
[23] For I see that you are full of bitterness and captive to sin.”

Proverbs 10:12 NIV
[12] Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs.

It then limits us from a close relationship with our Heavenly Father, from transforming us into Christlikeness and from becoming all He created us to be, loving others and having an abundant life that glorifies Him.

Christ has forgiven us of our sins, therefore we have no right not to forgive others who wrong us (Matthew 6:14-15 NIV, Ephesians 4:32 NIV).

There are few relationships in which forgiveness is needed on a regular basis. Marriage is one such relationship.

Don’t get married if you are not willing to forgive each other countless times (Matthew 18:21-22 NIV).

Forgiveness frees not only your husband, but also you and releases you from the limitations the enemy tries to bring into your life through unforgiveness.

Forgiveness should be unlimited and it results in God’s unlimited favour on our marriages and our lives.

If you struggling in this area, pray about it, ask the Holy Spirit to soften your heart so you can forgive your husband.

Forgiveness does not mean you must tolerate repeated sinful behavior by your husband or you. Seek counsel to help you deal with it so you come to true repentance and change your behavior.