Matthew 8:23-25 NIV

[23] Then he got into the boat and his disciples followed him. [24] Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. [25] The disciples went and woke him, saying, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown!”

[26] He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm. [27] The men were amazed and asked, “What kind of man is this? Even the winds and the waves obey him!”

I wrote this blog in June last year and last week during a Holy pilgrimage of the life of Jesus, as we actually sailed on the Sea of Galilee in this video clip, where this passage of scripture took place, it was a powerful moment where the Bible came alive to me, also in the context of marriage as I reflected on this blog and updated it. The lake is so deceptively calm here and it seems unlikely that you could have furious storms but the wind can suddenly gather from the mountains, we were told, and the  waters get extremely rough. I could imagine the disciples fear whilst Jesus slept peacefully unbothered by the storm. So it is with marriage, sometimes it can be calm and we think we can relax and we no longer need Jesus when suddenly the trial winds gather and we find ourselves engulfed in a storm we can’t handle in our own strength. Other times, we have Jesus in our boats but we have no faith in Him, it’s as though He is “asleep” to us. Many times this leads to marriages shipwrecked on the shores of the divorce courts because we have never let Jesus into our marriage boats, we let Him out at some point or we have lost faith in Him. 

You see, Jesus is still in the business of calming storms. We just have to invite Him into our marriage “boats”, then have faith in Him by allowing Him to help steer our boats and keep Him close.

Marriage storms will come, the Bible actually warns us in 1 Corinthians 7:28 NIV “But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.” The word used is “will” so marriage storms are certain.

God wants us to get married that’s why He said ” It is not good for man to be alone” in Genesis 2:18 NIV

The Apostle Paul is just saying it’s ok not to get married, if you so choose.

So marriage storms will come, we’ve established that much. They may come because:

  1. of our own disobedience to His Word so we rock our own boats or shipwreck them with our sin; 
  2. of the enemy’s raging waters attacks lashing against our boats because He wants to sink it; 
  3. God is testing and training us for His purposes.

Storms will lash and beat at your marriage “boat”. Raging waves will send water rushing into your “boat”. They will threaten to sink your “boat” or shipwreck it completely on the shores of the divorce courts.


If you cry out to Jesus and let Him into your marriage “boat”, He will surely calm the storms, as even the winds and the waves obey Him. He will see you safely back to shore , if you allow Him so you can sail again. His is all powerful! He can rebuke the wind,  He can calm the storm, He can bring comfort, He can bring peace, He can bring restoration, He can bring the life and the beauty back into your marriage after every storm.

So whether you are in a marriage storm or in a calm season, don’t drift away from Him, 

  1. Continue to have faith in Him; 
  2. Don’t fear like the disciples because then you can’t have faith;
  3. Stay in prayer because it builds intimacy with Him;
  4. Stay in the Word because faith comes by hearing the Word; 
  5. Listen carefully for His guidance through the chaos of the storm; 
  6. Trust and follow His guidance for navigating through your storm; 

Be encouraged to also learn the lessons from it, so you can grow and help others because storms are never in vain, they usually become testimonies for overcoming if you will let God use them.