Neither she nor he mention, let alone discuss, their expectations in any thoughtful manner, they just can’t wait to get married.
A few weeks after they get married, he loses his job and their family income is halved. It comes as a complete surprise to the both of them, something they never considered a possibility.
Deep, deep disappointment of crushed expectations that may then seem unrealized or impossible can cause enormous tension in marriage and in a young marriage it can be extremely destructive as you feel you might as well get out early since you haven’t invested much time in the marriage. This is not God’s way.
We all have expectations of our spouses-to-be and of marriage but do we ever give it serious consideration before marriage?
Don’t be ashamed to be “naked” about your wildest expectations of your future husband and of marriage before you walk down the isle for the following reasons:
If you still have major unmet expectations that cause friction in your marriage, don’t resolve it by fighting each other but by;
Whilst you can’t possibly anticipate and discuss every future expectation that may arise in your marriage, it is essential that you address the key ones as a minimum and the ways in which you will address unmet or changed expectations.
Most importantly put God first, as His Word says and He will provide what you need.
Matthew 6:33-34 NIV
 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.  Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Proverbs 19:21 NIV
Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails