General

Matthew 8:23-25 NIV [23] Then he got into the boat and his disciples followed him. [24] Suddenly a furious storm came up on the lake, so that the waves swept over the boat. But Jesus was sleeping. [25] The disciples went and woke him, saying, “Lord, save us! We’re going to drown!” [26] He replied, “You of little faith, why are you so afraid?” Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm. [27] The men were amazed and asked, “What kind of man is this? Even the winds and the waves obey[...]

Testimonies are necessary, they can help us overcome our marriage struggles. Revelation 12:11 NIV They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death. Marriage is wonderful and sharing your testimonies freely because you want to help others should not be done without boundaries. It is important that you also maintain a high degree of privacy between you and your husband. You don’t have to gut open your entire marriage for the world to examine. Whilst there will be times[...]

God has not called us to be perfect as wives but to be holy and excellent. Perfection is carefully crafted works trying to please everyone, in our own strength. It can drive us to strive for material things that are seen outwardly to impress and gain favour with man, appearing to be the “perfect wife” but falling apart inside. It’s exhausting and temporary. Holiness is humbly walking by His grace to do that which is right and excellent, not that which is perfect. It is saying,  “Lord , we cannot do everything perfectly as wives but we want to and[...]

Personal testimony Years ago I wasn’t always a helper wife, a submitted wife, a wife who respected her husband, yet I was a wife who loved her husband but it was no longer enough. And to top it all I was stubborn to change because I believed the problem was with my husband. Part of the problem was also that I didn’t know how to be a wife after God’s heart. I had never paid the right kind of attention to any teaching in order to transform. We were no longer enjoying our marriage as there was too much strife[...]

Your husband should be your closest confidant, in fact he should be your best friend, and you, his. We share our whole lives together with our husbands. We live together, we sleep together, we are intimate together, we attend church together, we pray together, we raise our precious kids together, we spend leisure time together and much more. They should know our strengths and our areas we need to grow, our dreams and our realities, our gains and our losses, our rejections and our victories, our hurts and our joys, our frustrations and our breakthroughs and all there is to[...]

Marriage is meant to transform us to be more like Jesus. When change needs to take place in us in order to grow as godly wives, and we are blinded by our own self-righteousness and stubbornness, expecting our husbands to change or grow first or just accept us the way we are, is a recipe for disaster. We cannot force our husbands to change or grow, only the Word of God and His power can. What we can do is be obedient and allow the Holy Spirit to change or grow us whilst we pray for our husbands. We may[...]

Each day as I pour out my heart when I write for Helper Wife, I am so grateful to be married to my amazing husband. Crazy busy as he is, he helps me edit for Biblical accuracy, whether something can stand on its own. Is not overtly offensive and so on. Hopefully someday he will join me and talk to the husbands. I am just an ordinary South African wife who has been so blessed by a Biblical marriage through my own walk and I want to encourage others do have the same. I really believe God has placed that[...]