God created sexual intimacy for marriage only. Abstaining before marriage is a narrow road indeed.
The narrow road of sexual purity is often times lonely because few choose to walk through that “small gate.” It is winding and littered with bends, hills and valleys. These are often hard and painful times of ridicule, rejection and lost relationships.
Matthew 7:13-14 NIV
 “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.  But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it.
If sexual intimacy outside of marriage is a condition to marriage, it is best to walk away as it is no guarantee to walking down the aisle. It is motivated by pure lust and not godly love, don’t be fooled. If you oblige for fear of losing that relationship, you are off to the wrong start, a start which is unacceptable to Your Heavenly Father.
A man who is a true child of God will not pressure you into sexual intimacy with him before he marries you. If he tries and you say “no” he will respect that. If he ends the relationship, well then he wasn’t going to stay anyway and if you must first have a child to keep him, he is not staying because he wants to.
It is impossible to see around every bend, over every hill and down every valley.
However, your Heavenly Father knows what is on the other side of every hill, He is well aware of what awaits you in the valleys and He can see around every bend. These may be times of separation for holiness, training or testing but if you trust Him, He will deliver you from them all.
Psalm 34:19 NIV
The righteous person may have many troubles, but the Lord delivers him from them all;
So, when temptation comes, and it will…
Luke 17:1 NIV
Jesus said to his disciples: “Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come.
Be courageous and say NO! God will never let you be tempted beyond what you can bear and He will always provide an escape route from any temptation to sleep with a man before marriage. Grab that escape route with all that you have! And certainly don’t be the one who tempts the man.
1 Corinthians 10:13 NIV
 No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.
He will make you stronger if you resist.
Psalm 37:23 NIV
The Lord makes firm the steps of the one who delights in him
Sexual intimacy is not just an act of the flesh, it is also a deeply spiritual experience tying you to that person. It is difficult to just shake it off and move on, especially for women who get emotionally attached more easily and it will create problems in your future marriage, whether with that person or not.The enemy does not lead you into temptation to bless you because his goal is your destruction and if he can prevent a covenant marriage that is sanctified, he will, because godly children, raised in a godly marriage, are his targets as well.
You can decide to enter through that “small gate” at any time, even if you are on the “wide road that leads to destruction”. If you are already in a intimate relationship outside of marriage, stop, ask for forgiveness, and turn away from the behavior by the grace of God. You can begin again.
Be encouraged to then stay on the narrow path of sexual purity…
THERE IS LIFE AT THE END OF IT.