The narrow road of sexual purity before marriage
God created sexual intimacy for marriage only. Abstaining before marriage is a narrow road indeed. The narrow road of sexual purity is often times lonely because few choose to walk through that “small gate.” It is winding and littered with bends, hills and valleys. These are often hard and painful times of ridicule, rejection and lost relationships. Matthew 7:13-14 NIV [13] “Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. [14] But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and[...]
Blink the stars out of your eyes and check the potential husband out properly
God never tells us exactly which man to marry, it’s our choice, He has given us that power. He only tells us that we must marry a believer ( 1 Corinthians 7:39 NIV; 2 Corinthians 6:14NIV) This doesn’t mean we cannot consult him though prayer on exactly which man to marry, we can pray about anything and He will hear us, but ultimately the choice is ours whether we listen or not. Many of us would have heard about “godly” men doing ungodly things and then we say “but he is supposed to be a Christian” and we “blame” God[...]
The bitter consequences of unforgiveness
Sometimes forgiving is hard, especially when you have deep wounds and scars and those who have never had to forgive “hard things” may be continually telling you to forgive. Unforgiveness leads to bitterness and in turn hatred, leading to constant conflict and ultimately sin. Acts 8:23 NIV [23] For I see that you are full of bitterness and captive to sin.” Proverbs 10:12 NIV [12] Hatred stirs up conflict, but love covers over all wrongs. It then limits us from a close relationship with our Heavenly Father, from transforming us into Christlikeness and from becoming all He created us to[...]
Sometimes the perfect wedding can wait until after you are married
We dream of the perfect day, the perfect gown, the perfect venue, the perfect wedding, the perfect honeymoon and we wait and wait and wait for the perfect budget. God wants us to get married that is why He says it is not good for man to be alone in Genesis 2:18 NIV. In 1 Corinthians 7 NIV the Apostle Paul talks about it being better to remain unmarried because marriage brings trouble. He is not saying we mustn’t marry as that would be contradicting Genesis 2:18. He is just saying it is ok not to marry if you so[...]
Free 9 Weeks Marriage Course !!
My husband and I both want to be relevant by investing personal time in our vision of “healing a marriage, healing a family, healing a community and healing a nation.” We begin that journey by offering our first complimentary 9 week marriage course for a maximum of 14 married coupes who do not have immediate access to such a course. Both husband and wife must attend. My husband and I will facilitate the course ourselves. We will cover all the costs of venue and equipment hire, refreshments as well as the coursework and workbooks. You as wife and your husband[...]
Shipwrecked on the shores of the divorce courts or Jesus in your marriage “boat”?
Jesus is still in the business of calming storms. We just have to let Him into our marriage “boats”. Marriage storms will come, the Bible actually warns us in 1 Corinthians 7:28 NIV “But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.” The word used is “will” so marriage storms are certain. I sometimes tease that the Apostle Paul was definitely on the money with this verse, because marriage can be hard and difficult at times. A friend of mine recently replied and I quote ” He wasn’t married. He didn’t[...]
Perfection is out! Holiness is in!
God has not called us to be perfect as wives but to be holy and excellent. Perfection is carefully crafted works trying to please everyone, in our own strength. It can drive us to strive for material things that are seen outwardly to impress and gain favour with man, appearing to be the “perfect wife” but falling apart inside. It’s exhausting and temporary. Holiness is humbly walking by His grace to do that which is right and excellent, not that which is perfect. It is saying,  “Lord , we cannot do everything perfectly as wives but we want to and[...]
Mistreatment of a wife by her husband “bounces” his prayers right back from the “ceiling” of Heaven
Our Heavenly Father places enormous responsibility on our husbands to treat us well and with respect. In 1 Peter 3:7, the Bible warns that men who mistreat their wives might as well not pray because their prayers will not be answered. It is as if it “bounces” right back to earth from the “ceiling” of heaven. The domino effect of their disobedience will have serious and far reaching negative consequences for their lives, our lives, the lives of our children and families. 1 Peter 3:7 NIV Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and[...]
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