Proverbs 31:10 NIV
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.The words “who can find?” suggests rarity. The word “rubies” confirms this rarity. The high worth is as a result of this scarcity. The Bible is referring to a wife’s character, not the value of a woman herself, we are all equally valuable as people, as we are created in God’s image. It is our character that is of enormous value, not our material possessions, social standing, or achievements.
I wondered why God uses the Word “rubies” and not diamonds as, naturally, diamonds are the worlds most sought after precious stones. During my research I came across a fascinating article that suggests rubies are the most valuable and most rare. (I have added the link below, it makes for interesting reading).
The Oxford Dictionary defines noble as:
- having fine personal qualities; and
- having high moral principles;
Fine personally qualities means we must strive to possess the qualities found in the character of Christ (Christlikeness).
High moral principles means we
will naturally hate evil and do what is right in God’s eyes through our obedience to His Word (Romans 12:9 NIV).
When we cultivate this character, we will be the kind of helpers to our husbands as God intended in Genesis 2:18 NIV. God will use us to accomplish all He purposed for our husbands, our marriages, our children and our lives.
It is not easy to become something which is rare, therefore of high value and sought after. Just like a ruby does not just appear on the surface of the earth ready to be used in whatever form, it has to be mined and go through various processes, cleaned, cut and polished for us to enjoy its beauty, its magnificence. So too we cannot become noble in character in our own strength and wisdom overnight. We need the intervention of Jesus to “mine” us. Next is transformation, a process of renewal beginning with the mind, by the power of the Holy Spirit through the word of God. This “beautiful” rare noble character which begins to emerge in us, God can use to bring great blessing and favour to our husbands, our marriages, our children, our lives.
The difficulty lies in not conforming to the patterns of this world with its seductive powers (Romans 12:2 NIV).
We also don’t become noble in character without our own unique experiences such as marriage, without challenges, without close godly friendships and relationships that hold us accountable or without being discipled.
It means less of this world, the “lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes. The pride of life”, and more of Him
(1 John 2:15-16 NIV).
I don’t know about you, but I want to be a wife of noble character.